"You don't have to think about doing the right thing. If you're for the right thing, then you do it without thinking."
~ Maya Angelou

October 4, 2013

It's A Process...

by Daniel Jacob, MSW: Founder of Can You Hear Me?

It's A Process... Indeed it is as this is where I am at.  Like many of those that can hear me, I can find myself immersed into my own thoughts and reflection as it applies to my future.  I took note recently as I found myself thinking about this more than perhaps was needed.  As a result I found my sleep being impacted with the problem solving in full effect.  I can honestly say that it has been quite some time since I've visited this place and space.  However, as I have come to understand, I am accepting of where I am at, while continuing to be a part of it, after all It's A Process...

I write this week from a place of intention and purpose.  My intention speaks to any and all who may be facing similar times.  My purpose is to model in a manner that showcases my ability to cope, manage and recover from the thoughts that come, and usually on their own schedule.  The future is not really the issue here, this will come as it should.  The root lies in what I just can not control, and thus it takes a level of awareness to understand this, accept it, and let it go.  How am I able to do this?  I trust the process, one that I am a wholeheartedly a part of.  For example, if my sleep is impacted, I have to own it while continuing to do my work.  The effort therefore lies in my continual trust that I am doing the right thing, without thinking.  This is the course that fully supports my wellbeing, as demonstrated by the healthy coping mechanisms and selfcare practices that are in place.  It's A Process...

Now you may be thinking no more or less about what I shared, as if there is no mystery here.  Well, If I can further share that in the past my self-medication and unhealthy coping would of been the only choice, then perhaps I now have your attention.  Having this experiential understanding of an unhealthy way versus a process serves its purpose, one that has led me towards transformative change...  I am exactly where I need to be.  I share this with all those that can hear me because I know some out there are caught in between that vulnerable world of being functional and unhealthy.  I get it, as I have been there with you, superman by my side.  I was immersed into that mode of survival that ultimately met a force that it could not withstand...

If it doesn't challenge you, it won't change you.  Words to live by that have fundamentally supported my process.  The one that I trust because I am a part of.  So, when the thoughts come and the sleep suffers as a result, I know I am going to be OK.  I will because I have developed and maintained the skills, support, want, belief and commitment that will always help me find my way.  As I leave you with this message, may you move closer towards finding your own way, and may you never, never lose sight of the reality that It's A Process, Change Takes Time!

About Author

Daniel Jacob, MSW Email
Founder of Can You Hear Me? External Field Instructor at University of Southern California School of Social Work MSW@USC. Daniel has a Masters in Social Work (Families and Children Practice/School Social Work). He is currently nearing the completion of the LCSW testing process. More about the man behind the mission⇢


  1. Daniel,
    As I sit here at my computer reflecting on my day, I wonder often am I where I should be. I don't know if I will ever have that answer, but I keep showing up and moving forward. Where should anyone be? I don't think we came with manuals ( and if we did I did not get mine). Your thoughts are always powerful and purposeful. Thank you and have a good night. I hope sleep comes easy for you tonight.

  2. Michelle,

    Nice to hear from you once again! Your words and reflection are insightful and speak well to your own process. The manuals are not handed out, but we all have the opportunity to create our own as we work towards progress. This opportunity in of itself can provide us with the openings that support us wholeheartedly when the thoughts of where we should be arise.

    Thank you again for taking the time to listen to my words, these are the moments that reinforce that I am exactly where I need to be. My sleep has once again returned to where it should be, I assume by the work that I continue to put forward. May this find you breathing well...