The question came my way the other day, Who is Superman? The context came as a result of walking a path of invincibility, the only problem is that the outcome one usually wants to avoid was being reinforced in the process. Many of us are guilty of striving (whether it's conscious or not) to get everything and anything on our plate done, checked off the list, completed, without realizing that we really need to slow down while being mindful of what is taking place. The root and cause of this mindset can come from various sources (historical, personality and perceived identity to name a few) that although we may be aware of as it is happening, can still hang around like a bad cold!
So, I ask you Who is Superman? At the cost of our own well-being, invincibility does not help us move forward in a healthy and productive manner. You may be thinking, this internal motivator does get things done so I guess it's not that bad. Yeah, I hear that but the constant energy can be consuming and draining and if anything its affect and effects are causing us to move into an area that will not support our best interests. So, I'll put it out there to any and all that can hear me, everything is going be OK, it always gets done in one way or another. What this means is that you usually meet the objective, and if not, it will still be waiting for you the next time you press power! Therefore, you don't have to think about what you need to get done (or what you may think has to get done) from the time you awake until the time you lay your head to rest, all you have to do is ask yourself Who is Superman? You have a choice here, one that at times can be difficult and challenging, but within this there is always an opportunity to do the right thing without...
It is fair to say that when one is in a career (and position) that requires supporting and managing others needs, you are more susceptible to being that superhero, and you may not always see it any other way. Furthermore, if this representation has been reinforced and ingrained for some time there will be some work ahead in order to break the madness, a place and space that can ultimately impact your well-being, which in turn will impact your professional practice. Who is Superman? is independently different for each of us because we are all uniquely special. However, the opportunity to change a behavior or mindset is something that we all have the ability to achieve, as long as we see it as something that needs to change. The lessons that we advocate for while supporting those in need are right there in front of us for ourselves as well, what we choose to do with them can either empower us to move forward, or we can just decide to keep on reinforcing the cycle of... So, I ask you, do you really have to be Superman?
Until the next time my words and your availability cross paths don't forget to check in with yourself when in need. It can be as simple as we see it, or as difficult as we choose to make it be...
"Seeing yourself as you want to be is the key
to personal growth.”
Daniel Jacob, MSW Email
Founder of Can You Hear Me? External Field Instructor at University of Southern California School of Social Work MSW@USC. Daniel has a Masters in Social Work (Families and Children Practice/School Social Work). He is currently nearing the completion of the LCSW testing process.
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