I am not trying to be a Social Worker in my personal worlds, I really am not. However, I am a Social Worker by nature, I get it (how to help others change for the better) and do have the ability to really tap into someone else' pain and suffering, Often it comes to me when I am not really asking for it. It is challenging to say the least, and for someone like myself who by nature wants to be available and present for others, I have to be real disciplined with that boundary thing, and so I am. The only problem with that is that often others can not really understand this, and when you are an active listener and those who know you see your "empathy" in it's truest form they gravitate to you. What usually happens is you listen and speak when you need to, but one thing that this does not prevent is taking on the energy of someone' anger, frustration, pain and suffering. So what do you do? You do what you need to, to take care of you, a little thing in our professional world called " Self Care" something that is so vital and important to not only be healthy, but be effective as a helping professional.
In closing let me just say that those who need help are very different from those who want help. The first group are those with many roadblocks, which continue to produce many setbacks. This doesn't mean that these individuals are bad people, often they are very functional and if you don't know what you are looking at or for you will just walk right past them.... The individuals who want help (also need help) are ready and available to listen, to work, they believe in the process and are ready to commit. You see the difference? Both groups need help and support, that is similar, but now which one has a better possibility of changing for the better? I will leave you with that one, as always be strong, stand up and stay up!